Facebook Relationship Killers

May 5, 2010 at 5:02 pm (Uncategorized)

Facebook has become such a big phenomenon with our generation. I found this article and had to share it. It’s interesting to read and see how much technology is affecting us today.

13 ways Facebook ruins your relationship

By: Marushka Mujic

I doubt most of you need anyone telling you Facebook may be ruining your relationship, considering it is most likely a reality you yourself are living. But, in the event that right now it all seems like one, enormous mess of awfulness too powerful to approach, destroy and rework, here’s a breakdown, complete with labels, scenarios and love lessons, in hopes that you can tackle this virtual monstrosity and take it apart, piece by terrorizing piece.

  1. Your relationship status: Here’s an immediate source of controversy contributing to the difficulty of early dating. Ever been here? You like a girl, she likes you. You date, you share a bed, you spend some time together, everything’s going well and splendid. Then, oh no, she asks. "Are we like… facebook relationship status ‘together?" You react poorly, (i.e. you don’t change your profile settings) and suddenly, just like that, it’s over. Well, friends, that’s because to modern women, your facebook relationship status is the equivalent of a high school promise ring. It’s a public announcement that you’ve picked someone to stand by. Problem being? You probably don’t want to publicly announce anything of the sort. A good way to avoid this, is by deleting this setting from your profile all together and making some righteous speech to her about how you are a private person and feel it your right to remain secretive even in a "perversely invasive technological age." Good luck.
  1. Unfortunate old photos: If she’s your facebook friend, she already knows too much. She’s seen you two years ago when you had that stupid haircut, five years ago before you killed off your acne, last week when you got too wasted to stand upright. If there’s flaws in your behavior (and let’s be honest, hopefully there are or else you’re certainly not human), she’s already seen them. For this reason, be fickle about being tagged in photos. Untag wisely. It just may save you from some truly considerable trauma.
  1. Tagging her offensively: You know how sometimes when a woman asks you if she looks good and you reply, saying something you think is positive but actually provokes wailing sobs and fuming screams from her? This is like that type of miscommunication. A photo that you may completely harmless, may make her cringe, cry or call it quits on you. So instead of being presumptuous, just let her know you uploaded some photos and she can feel free to tag them herself. (NOTE: Do NOT only tag yourself and not tag her. She will definitely think you are trying to hide her. For more on this – read below)
  1. Lack of Online attention: You may just be one of those sensible lads who doesn’t like to constantly post on people’s profiles. But, if you’re dating a lady who is and you’re trying to follow preliminary dating protocol, you better get hip to it. Girls like this eagerly await the day their newest flame will find the chance to post some witty comment to their profile. When you don’t, they think you’re either too lazy to care or trying to hide them from your internet friends. An ideal excuse: "To be honest with you, when I really like someone, I don’t like to interact with them online that much. I think it cheapens the sincerity of our connection, don’t you? It’s so impersonal.
  1. Your Ex’s invade: Your personal history is scrawled across this public forum. She can scroll through a blog roll of your recent years and see who you date, how it went, what she looked like and the romantic love notes posted. As with the photo untagging, trying to be savvy about deleting these little blips when you’re starting to see someone new and curious. They have the delete option above comments for this reason in particular. USE IT.
  1. Her ex’s invade: You think you want to know about her ex’s, but you don’t. You never do. Unfortunately, now, you don’t have much of a choice. They’re there. They’re posting on her profile, on her profile picture, telling her "Hey sexy, you still got it." This makes you livid. Chill your stuff, dudes. It doesn’t mean anything. In fact, try to spin it positively by using it to your advantage. Be different from the dudes she ditched and use their internet trails as an example of what NOT to do.
  1. General Jealousy: Internet groupies are a huge problem for both sexes, no debate here. If you happen to have a lot of them, try never to respond to their advances in any way that she could misinterpret as interest (because she will). If she happens to have a lot of them, be grateful that the girl you currently get to lay is extremely attractive and wanted and only working her moves on you. If you have a strange feeling that you’re NOT the only one she’s working her moves on AND she has a plethora of facebook admirers, take it as a warning sign. What your thinking (fearing?) is probably right…
  1. Poking: Poking is the virtual, (I hesitate to say) "adult" manner of pinching someone playfully in elementary school. It means "I think you’re cute, but I’m a coward." Unless you’re already dating a girl, and you know she’s the type that would get a kick out of something like this, don’t do it. It’s too controversially corny to be a good move and can potentially very quickly kill your game.
  1. Time Stealer: Spending too much time on your iPhone checking out the latest upload? STEP AWAY FROM THE ELECTRONIC APPLIANCE. Nothing can kill a physical relationship faster than an infatuation with cyberspace, particularly if it’s for Facebook – a service that advertises interactive communities – because she will infer that your internet community is more important that your interaction with her. Moreover, to constantly post and upload, will only make you look all too available and uninteresting. Get a hobby, dude! It’s healthy for you and way hotter than being able to type as fast as a 1950’s secretary without a diploma.
  1. Becoming a fan of the wrong page: What groups you join, what pages you favorite, what you virtually promote – all of this goes into the boiler of her brain when summing you up. So, be sure to be choosy about what invitations and page suggestions you accept (i.e. pages with nicknames and/or connotations concerning raunchy sex, getting wasted, geeky group games, etc). Otherwise, what you thought of as a simple click to support a friend, may simply stop your sex life.
  1. Discovering your inbox: ALWAYS LOG OUT. I’ll say it again. ALWAYS LOG OUT. If you’re at her house and you happen to log on and then leave without doing so, she may (either accidentally or intentionally) snoop around your inbox. And while you may not remember having any problematic messages stored away, you never know who has recently messaged you from your past or what past messages will somehow surface to sabotage what you’ve presently got going.
  1. Discovering her inbox: You may not be a snoop, but the page is open and it’s there, staring at you, begging you to sneak a look. Of course, I urge you not to do it. Not to protect or defend women, but to protect yourself. You will discover things that mean nothing and seem monumental. It’s in the nature of Facebook to blow everything out of proportion and the last thing you need is to have your head contaminated with old messages from internet lusters who she’s already forgotten about, in favor of you.
  1. A picture is worth a thousand words: When it comes to Facebook pictures, know that she considers your profile picture the ultimate announcement. Whoever finds their way into your profile picture is, in her mind, given high priority in yours. So, even if your pal took a hilarious photo of you at a bar with three Budweiser beer girls or of you and your best girl friend doing something hilarious together, avoid at all costs advertising this as a profile pick. To her, this means she’s not good enough to be your favorite. And, even if this is absolutely true, it’s something she absolutely doesn’t need to know.

Source: http://www.mademan.com/13-ways-facebook-ruins-your-relationship

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Always cheers me right up.

May 4, 2010 at 11:40 pm (Favorites)

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MET Gala

May 4, 2010 at 3:39 pm (Favorites)

While looking through some of my favorite blogs and people.com this morning, I realized the MET Gala was yesterday. I love looking at the dresses the celebrities pick out and what works and doesn’t. Had to share some of my favorites. The dresses were well chosen for the following celebrities. My favorite dress of the evening had to be Jennifer Lopez. Her fashion sense has definitely changed since becoming a mother – for the better.

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Delicious

May 4, 2010 at 9:28 am (Uncategorized)

Cooking has been fun so far, from the weekend and yesterday. Have been enjoying the use of my kitchen more and more lately. Only downside? Washing the dishes. The stacks and stacks of dishes.

Saturday – Had shredded meat mixed with beans, corn, and salsa. It was a naked burrito =) Topped with salsa! I believe Mr. Wonderful had spaghetti and meatballs that day.

Sunday, I cooked Carne con papa. I’ve never made it myself and I have to say, not a HUGE fan of it. It was good but I wasn’t in love with it. I took a picture of the ingredients and the meat cooking but sadly forgot to take an after picture.

Monday – Had lean ground beef with rice. Threw some raisins in and we had picadillo for dinner. Made home made brownies after that and they were delicious. Will take a picture of that and include later.

YUM YUM!!

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I’ll be seeing you. <3

May 3, 2010 at 2:31 pm (Misc.)

“They didn’t agree on much. In fact, they rarely agreed on anything. They fought all the time and they challenged each other everyday. But in spite of their differences, they had one important thing in common, they were crazy about each other.”

“Stay with you? What for? Look at us, we’re already fightin’”

“Well that’s what we do, we fight… You tell me when I am being an arrogant son of a bitch and I tell you when you are a pain in the ass. Which you are, 99% of the time. I’m not afraid to hurt your feelings. You have like a 2 second rebound rate, then you’re back doing the next pain-in-the-ass thing.”

“It’s not gonna be easy. It’s going to be really hard; we’re gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, everyday. You and me… everyday.”

It’s you and me baby.

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Friendships

April 29, 2010 at 1:18 pm (Friends/Family)

The most important thing in life is your family. There are days you love them, and others you don’t. But, in the end, they’re the people you always come home to. Sometimes it’s the family you’re born into and sometimes it’s the one you make for yourself – Sex & the City

I have the very best family and friends that a person could ever ask for. I am truly blessed to be able to call my mother and my sister my very best friends. Without them I’d be nothing. They have always been there for me a long the way. My mother is such an inspiration to me; I strive to be just like her every day. Her strength and courage is always my guiding light. I love you mommy! My sister is the opposite of me and I love her for that. I don’t know what my life would have been like without her. When I needed advice, she was the one that was there. When I wanted to steal someone’s clothes, they were her clothes I stole. I always looked up to her and her individuality. I am thankful for my cousin Vanessa who was always there to lend me her shoulder. When I needed a laugh, I could call on her. Despite our epic fights/battles, we have somehow made it along the way. I also have some great friends that God granted me with (that are not related to me). These girls have truly been so great to me over the years/months/weeks. They have been there for me when I needed a shoulder to cry on, a friend to dance with, a friend to have chips and salsa with, someone to do the SWOOP with, someone to call my biffle or just someone to laugh with. When I’ve had the hardest times, they were there for me without question. They answer my phone calls, texts, emails and are just amazing. I love you guys and appreciate everything you guys have done for me a long the way. Whenever you need me, I will always be there. Love you girls (Michelle, Melanie, Georgia, and Jeannie).

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Yummy

April 28, 2010 at 11:40 pm (Food)

Decided I should start cooking more and eating out less. Starting the diet again has been hard but I’m pushing through it! Drank over 77 oz of water today (: Took some pictures of what’s been made so far.

Monday – Chicken Cordon Bleu, broccoli and cheese and red potatoes.

Tuesday – Sirloin steak (didn’t take a picture)

Wednesday – Pork chops with vegetables (The rice and beans were for Joe) and delicious mini chocolate chip cookies.

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Past

April 27, 2010 at 7:14 pm (Misc.)

The past can hurt. You can either run from it or learn from it – Rafiki

People tell you to forget the past but that’s what made us who we are today. The past shaped our relationships, our friendships, the way people treat us and the way we respond to people. I think you can forgive but I don’t think you can ever forget. Lately, Memories of the past have been popping up in my head. I keep thinking why some things happened, why they went wrong. What did I do to deserve to be spoken to that way? What did I do to deserve the words that were said behind my back? Is it karma? Did I let people treat me that way for so long that I’ve just become blind to the things I don’t want to see? I’m trying not to dwell on it, but it’s hard not to when it feels like the wounds are still open and unhealed. Sometimes I feel like I don’t have closure with certain things and maybe this is the way it’s going to be until I get my answers. The past is just an anchor holding me back.

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Love

April 26, 2010 at 1:36 pm (Friends/Family)

“The bad parts are never shown in the photo album, but it’s those bad parts that help us get from one happy photo to the next.“

Some times, when I’m not paying attention, he gives me those butterflies again. Stolen kisses while I’m cleaning, tickle fights, “I told you how much I love you right?,” laughing together over the cutest things our puppy does, and our little inside jokes. It’s in those moments that I realize what gets us from one fight to the next. From one kiss to the next. It’s those little moments that I’ll always keep close to my heart. ❤

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Vacation

April 21, 2010 at 4:54 pm (Dreams)

“The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.”

DREAMING of someday going to Bora Bora. ❤

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